As we approach the mayhem of Christmas, the pressure of over-indulgence in all areas; financial, alcohol, food you name it. The rebel in me can't help but feeling like doing it differently somehow. Now, I’m not talking about being a party pooper, because I love a good social. I’m not saying let's not buy gifts because it's fun to give, but I’m feeling like this year, I just don't want to get caught up in the mayhem. The desire to over-deliver despite myself, the desire to make sure everything is perfect for everyone because, well, that's what we just do….isn't it. I’m talking about a new mindset for Christmas for myself this year so when it comes to it I’m a twinkly as the Christmas tree not as dead as the left over turkey…..Anyone else fancy this?
You see for me and well I imagine for many of us Christmas can be a pretty emotionally loaded time. Yes, its beautiful and festive and I love all of those things but Christmas also highlights all the the things which a missing, loved ones who have passed, separated families or any family dysfunction can feel louder at Christmas. There have been times when I’ve actually wished I could just run away on my own for Christmas, I just couldn't face it the pressure for everything to be perfect. Then there are years and their have been many of these where the plan was to really go for it, over compensate mask every trouble with a huge gift and a prefect meal. Spend more, make it more beautiful just to hear them say Mummy that was the best Christmas. You see whilst Christmas is an amazing time to come together with our friends and families it soon turns into a huge commercial and stressful pressure and well between you and me I’m done with it this year. Add to it a huge amount of waste, plastic, wrapping paper, food you name it and well every part of me feels sad for our planet. So here I am think this how can I do Christmas differently this year, these are my thoughts?
Less if more, less is more lets make this our mantra, lets teach our kids this from an early age. It creates less waste takes less energy to find less items of better quality. Its easy all you have to think is one thing, whats one really great item of quality and value that can be treasured for a long time. Then be passed on or sold. If we cant afford it then why not club together with friends or family to buy this special gift and steer away from the mindset there needs to be heaps and heaps of stuff under the tree. Then most of it is crap that you don't want in your home and is going to take up your life precious time tidying and managing.
Try and do all you're shopping in one big swoop then its done, I love to buy stoking fillers from the school fares or other second hand places so then when they play with it for a day it doesn't matter no stress. Or do one quick internet order and its done. Then try really hard not to get sucked into that last minute stress of ooh I need to buy more a few days before. Just get the job done and let it go. Time to think about some important things like, where did I put that sequinned dress and those diamante heels?
Generally in life I eat little sugar and try not scoff loads of rubbish, apart from a resent Waitress Chocolate addiction I manage pretty well. Christmas comes along and its a mince pie with ice cream every night and so forth by the time you get to New year your half a stone heavier and you feel rubbish . Why do we do this to ourselves? Are just scoffing food out of sheer overwhelm and stress because of the intensity of Christmas. This year I’m not going to get caught up in the over eating for self fore fillment mindset. I will enjoy my Christmas dinner and few other treats out but I fully intend to keep some healthy eating habits going so that I can skip into the new year with a twinkle on my toe and a spring in my feet.
Im going to keep my self care routines going over the festive period, it's so easy to drop all the things we love doing all in the name of busyness preparation and things to do….Just one last gift to buy. Then we loose ourselves and after a few weeks the connection we have to ourselves is totally lost, it takes so long to re kindle on the other side. Well, this year it’s not happening, Im going to do my best to keep all the things I love, exercise, mediation and so on.. to do to keep my twinkle bright going, no more giving myself up for Christmas not this year!
My final plan is to get down to the good stuff that Christmas is all about, I’m going to get dressed up and go out dancing with my bestie’s so I can feel free in my heart and soul. I’m going to enjoy spending time with my children and their friends. I’m going to get messy making Christmas cards and decorations with them. Light a million fires and throw frankincense embers on it so our house smells yummy. I want to make some time for a few winter walks. Buy a beautiful tree and get the treasured decorations out that I have been collection over the years continue in the small family rituals Ive created.
Last but by no means least, this is the time when we have a great excuse to dress up, so much of our lives has been lost to the trend of being casual but I say this, make Christmas your excuse it get all your twinkly bits out sequins, gold, shimmer, shimmer you name it lets do it.. Yes lets all shine like Christmas trees, forget the stress Christmas is about one thing and one thing only its about us all being the brightest loveliest twinkliest versions of ourselves in our souls and in our clothes and everything we do so that we can light up those long dark cold wintery nights and open up our hearts to love each other just a little bit more..…