When I saw my little girl playing with her Barbies this morning, it got me thinking about femininity and how Barbie dolls have been given so much slack over the years. Sure, I get why not many of us have perfect Barbie-shaped bodies, wander round in perfectly glamorous dresses and make up all day, it’s pretty unrealistic, sure.
However there is a part of me that, well, just bloody loves them...why? Because they are so fabulously fashion, their clothes are so much fun and frankly, if I managed to have a little bit of Barbie doll style in my life then I think I would be one happy girl. Does this stop me from being a deeply connected spiritual feminine/ feminist woman? No not at all, let me tell you why.....
Who says to be a deeply soulful sister in the hood we have to neglect all the frivolous and fantastical world of fashion. Who says that we can’t be mindful and rock amazingly spectacular outfits? Well not me. Sometimes the world of spirituality and mindfulness can take its self so seriously. I believe that our inners and our outers are intrinsically linked that the two go hand in hand and all my life I’ve loved sparkly dresses and feeling feminine. When I wear lovely things they trigger an amazing feeling inside I feel connected to myself and there is an unstoppable energy that comes with this. What in the world pray tell isn’t soulful about this?
Secondly to be a woman is a blessing from the heavens sure we have allot of intense things we have to go through with our bodies throughout our lifetime however there is something so deeply magical about being a woman. There are so many faces to us we are emotional, irrational, completely rational, wise, elegant, serene, surrendered the list goes on however you can be sure that there will be many faces shown throughout a monthly cycle if you know what I mean. So why on earth shouldn’t our clothes reflect this. Surely it’s fine to be slouching around one minuet in an androgynous jumper and trousers one day and the nexts wiggling around in pink fishnets and high heels? I feel like it’s just too easy to get stuck in the latter and to find ourselves feeling a little embarrassed about dressing up....why is this?
In some was I don’t feel like the history of feminists have completely done us favours. Don’t get me wrong the right to vote, have opinions in life our own bank accounts (a very good thing!) is amazing. However I feel sometimes that a part of our female generation has been pushed into becoming over masculine and in lots of ways it messed up quite a lot of flow in the world.
One of which is the feeling of women feeling relaxed and connected to themselves enough to express themselves with their clothes and their lives. It’s so easy for us to get caught up I. The stress of money work managing things that we give up on ourselves and we forget that we once were little girls who just simply loved to play dress up and all the simple joy that this brought to our lives.
So don’t get me wrong here I’m not saying we all need to look like barbie dolls what I’m saying is there’s nothing wrong infact there is everything right in wanting to look and feel amazing. There are so many faces to femininity and I really feel this is one not to be forgotten. So how do we do this? We take a key from our little girls book and we focus on playing every now and again rather than thinking about everything we need to achieve. We spend some time lolling around enjoy ourselves and how we look and who we are. Im absolutely sure if we all did this every week our lives would become way more fabulous with very little effort and the things we would attract would be well nothing short from magnificent.....just a thought!