This week I’m on a meditation retreat and I've been thinking about what it truly means to have a soul connection with your style. It’s something I already feel passionate about but I decided to take it a little deeper so I could write a piece about it. Our journey with the things we love is ever evolving, I’m seeking daily to learn more so I can be the best at my work, to say we have arrived ever would be simple an act of cutting of our noses to spite our face as our whole lives are a journey of self evolution. So this is what I have found in my exploration.
What a strange world it is that we live in, us humans are very busy people both with our minds and our actions. Our days our filled and filled with many things, things to do people to see endless activity. Within these busy lives we lead we spend allot of time thinking about our worlds and the extreme amount of importance we feel about them. We seem to live in a strange space of self entanglement combined with an extreme existence of lack of true self connection. We get so caught up about the worries of our lives and the details of everything going on, how we are going to manage, is everything is going to work out ok?
So often we use our images to either fit in, attract, compete, or make ourselves feel better within our peer groups. It’s all mostly unconscious and not really thought about or particularly calculated its just something we do. For example there is a strong trend to dress down or not particularly make an effort. When you get into this habit it can feel quite hard to do something different. When we do reach out for something more self expressed we can feel uncomfortable and questions like “is this right for me” “I feel like I’m showing off” “who am I trying to be this doesn't fit my life now” can enter our heads.
The trouble with all the busyness we are experiencing and the lack of self connection and self investment is we don't spend time knowing ourselves. Like any relationship if you don't spend time checking in and doing things you like together it will eventually fall apart. How can we expect to know who we are what we like and who we want to be in this amazing limitless world if we don't spend time with ourselves.
I have a daily practice of things I do to keep me feeling good feeling taped into myself and if I skip it for more than a couple of days I start to feel quite groggy and disconnected I can get stuck on the details of my life and believe me there are lots to get stuck on. The things I love to do are; row daily on my rowing machine, its like a meditation practice I literally row myself out of stress into calm and endless possibility. I find regular exercise seems to set this mindset in my body for the whole day. Then I like to eat clean organic food that suits my body and I like to juice lots of super green juices. Life style is important to me as well, a little yet regular space do be somewhere I find beautiful and see or experience something inspiring to me.
Then there is my relationship to style and clothes, for me this is one of the most magical soul filled things in my life. When you become more peaceful within yourself you can be more relaxed and peaceful in your outer world. I love the way beautiful and the right clothes for me resonate with how I can feel inside. Fashion and style can be such an incredible tool for self expression. When you have a soulful connection to your style there is a huge amount of peace that goes with it.
When you decide to wear things your truly love and dress truly for yourself and your personality any noise of is this is right, what will people think will disappear. Fashion and style become a delicious act of self exploration, self care, self love and self expression for no other reason than for yourself. A peaceful and joyful process for you to engage with simply because you are an amazing person, living in a beautiful world surrounded by endless possibilities. Clothes are simply another pleasure and tool for you to use and experience within your life.
The last thing to remember for ourselves is this, the most attractive and powerful energy we can project is the energy of self embodiment not as a conceited act but just because, free from ego just for our own joy. If you are looking to attract anything into your life a job, a lover a husband new friends literally anything the best way to do this is to really be happy with the energy of you. For me a truly alive and soulful relationship with your style is an exciting place to start!