Quick click the share button…in a share obsessed world right now, why is it we're all clicking 'share' on other people's stories but are we really sharing our own desires? Or, are we all really just too terrified to share our hearts desires? Despite living in a viral internet sharing culture, are we all really just blocked up with a secret desire to share more, more truth, more content, more juice? Having always been a natural sharer to the point of making myself vulnerable at times, having observed myself and the effect sharing has on people at times and having been terrified to share at times here's what i think...
You see, I’ve always been an over sharer, I don't know why, I remember how it used to make me feel vulnerable when I was younger as I would share the things that were going on in my life. I remember one incident about age 10 sat on the school bench and I shared with my friend, a new girl in the school, about the fact my mum had a girlfriend for a lover instead of a boyfriend, that we lived all lived together and I absolutely adored her. Then by some crazy magic the other girl told me her mum had a girlfriend and she was too ashamed to let anyone know. Now what are the odds of that in a country school in Bath? In that instant, we created an atmosphere of feeling connected to each other, not weird or alone with a secret, my sharing had triggered healing, it felt good. However days later I was called into the school office and was told to be more careful about the things I spoke about, especially at secondary school. I remember my heart cracking in shame, I was so upset and confused I really didn't understand. My question inside myself was is it OK to share, is it wrong to do what feels so right?
Anyway, I didn't manage to stop being the one always sharing too much and I remember waking up after drunken drug filled nights where I had been opening my heart left, right and centre then feeling super vulnerable the next day, coupled with a hangover. Always when I had a good connection with someone I would tell them the random things that were going on in my life and as I grew older I noticed that my sharing did more than just create a story, it made people feel safe and at ease with me and people would always tell me their stories and things which they were holding deep in their heart.
I realised that it was a healing experience that it was a gift. I noticed that everyone wherever I went would tell me the things involuntarily the things they didn't speak to anyone else about. I would find myself telling stories to people consciously knowing that by doing so I would make them feel safe and they would see that they are not alone that we are all struggling with madness or life complexity on some level. I observed that I would sense information within people and somehow would know the right story to share to trigger healing. I noticed again and again that sharing was a gift, it was the antidote to isolation, epiphanies could be made and it was the thing which kept me going, it was a magical tool. Eventually after ignoring the burning desire to blog for years, blocking the desire share my views, I decided that I had no choice other than to just get on and share from the depth of my heart I had to get over my fears… so here I am writing to you.
So today I’ve been thinking, within our internet sharing obsessive society, do we really understand the value of truly sharing, speaking from our hearts, being our true selves and feeling safe and OK with that? You see, so many of us have things within in us, words, gifts, ideas, knowledge, thoughts that are literally bursting from our hearts and minds to share yet for some reason we feel absolute terror at doing so. These terrified feelings can manifest themselves self in all situations, from telling a friend their words hurts us, expressing to our loved ones something doesn't feel right to putting on a flamboyant outfit stepping out into the world and living our dream, sharing our own personal message and passions to the world. All of these things can create feelings of absolute terror. Today I’m wondering why, why is it that this happens, what is it that stops us from showing up in our beautiful all shining truths whatever they are. What if the things which you feel inclined to share are the very things which could save our world, how sad if you don't share them.
Well, I imagine for all of us there are different reasons for this but on the whole we have been brought up within an oppressive, competitive, suppressed society unconsciously passed on from generation to generation. A world where vulnerability doesn't feel safe it is scary. My views on this have developed over years of practising without conscious intent the art of opening up and feeling vulnerable through sharing, then experiencing peoples reactions feeling safe and being vulnerable back. I have noticed this; there is certain amount of magic created when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable lots of things happen and it really is an incredible thing. You feel less isolated you feel more connected, things that are holding you back dissolve a feeling of love, love for each other and humanity comes. A feeling of innate possibility happens Its an amazing way of connecting to source energy nothing else matters because you're no longer alone hearts have opened and we have connected to the collective consciousness it's amazing its limitless. Sharing and allowing yourself to be vulnerable is also a huge turn on when you connect to your lover with an open heart drop the bravado or the angst and just be honest and truthful from your heart it can trigger the most incredible mind blowing passion and intimacy beyond words. We as humans aren't supposed to live with guarded hearts too scared to share our inner most secrets, or our visions and dreams for ourselves and the world. We are put on this world to share, that's why the internet is going crazy for it because it's our truth were supposed to share. So are you making good use of this simple tool?
The message and the question I’m feeling to ask is this how can we all begin to share and allow our vulnerability to shine in a truly authentic way for the good and the healing of mankind. I’m feeling like asking you to instead of clicking the share button on your computer please just for me and well really for you can you look deep in your heart and share with the world your friends your lover your children and tell them your truths. Own the things that are hurting you, the things which are inspiring you, the dreams you have however big or small because by doing this not only do you free yourself you give them permission to do the same. You also free yourself from the risk of trying to live your life through others, which will always be disappointing for you and a burden for them. You see true connection with each other is were the juice of life exists its the golden thread of life, sharing and vulnerability is where healing can take place it’s the place of bliss contentment and togetherness. Its time for us all to step up and live inspired vulnerable connected lives because this is the inmate calling of human nature, not one secret suffering, shame, pain and stress feeling alone isolated and tangled up within our fears and dreams. We need to be the change that we want to see for ourselves our children our grandchildren and so forth.
How can we do this? Pull out every internal tool you can find to do this work both on an internal and external level. Step out of your comfort zone of keeping quiet because in the long run it isn't comfortable. Wear clothes that make you feel amazing even if a little uncomfortable emotionally, you will adjust to this new level be brave be bold in expressing who you are. If someone hurts you tell them clear it up straight away no blame just that hurt my heart please don't do that. If you feel inspired to share your magic your dreams with someone do it you will be amazed at the difference this will have. Your life will become way more intimate and juicy friendships will deepen, things will flow more naturally towards you with ease your troubles will feel less of a burden you will feel more inclined to get on with the good stuff believe me it works.
This leaves me to ask you do one last little thing for me, if any of this rings true to you and you feel inspired to do so, please can you share this? You see I’m sharing my truth because I want to use my vulnerability to create a healing ripple I want to empower people and help people feel safe to step up and be them selves. Having spent my life doing this with my friends and people i meet I now have a burning desire to expand this gift I seem to have. I would so like to spread my message as far as possible because my heart is bursting with the desire to give people permission to step up and become the most amazing and magnificent versions of who they are. For the good of themselves and the healing of mankind because, sharing is caring, a problem shared is a problem halved and the way i see it in these crazy times the most powerful thing we have is each other. Human connection a connection to the collective consciousness together ... love is the only way.....creating a healing ripple.....one small step at a time.....heart to heart.
Thank you for reading
Daisy Jubilee x