Stuff, the stuff that dreams are made of….striving to collect, create, own stuff. More stuff upon stuff until you don't even know what stuff you have. Stuff stuffed in corners, shelves, draws, boxes, cupboards basically everywhere, humming with the energy of stuff. Making your home nosey even when its quiet, keeping you busy tidying sorting managing it even when your not working and have nothing to do. Add 3 children to the mix of stuff and you have stuff everywhere, literally drowning in STUFF.
I have a love hate relationship to stuff, on the one hand I love it, everywhere I go I see beautiful things get inspired by outfits, shoes, pink wigs, china art the list goes on. Yet my ideal home is a large room with very little in it except my favourite art and some lovely pieces of beautiful furniture. I am inspired by minimalist principles, I love the feeling of a cleared room when I’ve ruthlessly gone in and culled the shelves from everything that has gathered leaving only the things I love behind shining and sparkling.
My interests in minimalism consciously began when I was at home with 3 children all day and I began to see the amount of time just managing their belongings was taking me, I soon began to resent this wasted time. Being someone who loves stillness and space I’m constantly looking to carve out space. Whilst managing a busy schedule of children and being a creative I find stuff management such a waste of time. 5 years on I still feel the same. My questions to myself are this how can despite having cleared my spaces and decluttered over and over can we as a family still have so much stuff.
This last few days I’ve been really observing this and I can see why. It takes a huge amount of clarity and self discipline to manage your relationship to stuff. It is so connected to your emotions and beliefs about who you are and what you deserve. I can be the worst for buying when overwhelmed or stressed to fill a void or make me feel better. Truthfully to an extent it does work but only when you buy 1 thing you love over 10 things you think you love in the moment, however a few months later you are not so sure.
Then there is the mindset of accepting things because they are free or a bargain. This is a massive one for me. Being bought up by a family of bargain hunters I’ve had to do so much letting go with this one yet it still haunts me. Nothing is a bargain unless you truly love it and feel you will use it again and again other wise it is just stuff. Be careful of shop sales, second hand stores, children's hand me downs, car boot sales. In fact be careful of anything that has the phycology of a bargain, no matter its price level Its a huge way stuff slips into our precious lives.
Then there is keeping it because you aught to, it a family heirloom or a wedding gift. These things can drive me mad, a feeling of responsibility to a thing that was passed down is a weight in its self let alone needing to create space to house that belonging.The list goes on….
Any way I’m here in that place that I’ve found myself so many times in my life, perhaps its because I’m born in the year of the snake, snakes like to shed their skins and start again. I’m de cluttering I’m letting go of excess stuff, I have this feeling that for me to be successful I need to be free of anything I don't love or need, I need my energy vibration to be high not weighed down. I believe this so greatly within my work. When we are creating our wardrobes we really need to let go of anything we are holding on to before we re-create. Within my signature system one of my steps is letting go, another system I’ve created is an A_Z of style classics. It’s a guide for all things within the fashion world that if you buy you will defiantly use again and again and are styles which are timeless.
For myself I thrive when I create systems for myself to exist within, my next step is for me to create a list for how I allow stuff into my life. I’m feeling I need to be way more ruthless hold the flood gates way tighter.On the plus side the gift I have for finding beautiful things everywhere I go makes me an amazing stylist for other people, when I tune into to someone else’s style things just appear for them on my travels.
Sometimes the act of decluttering its self can feel so overwhelming and like such a waste of time however my advice would to remember that as you clear your outer world you are also clearing your inner world and this is a valuable act, I promise you will feel better all round.