Recently I’ve been thinking about what it is that keeps us stuck, holds us back from the decision to make changes to our lives so we can live those rainbow dreams we all desire. What is it that stops us from choosing our truths and keep us stuck in patterns that really don't serve us. Because, get this, stop a minute and remember this, life is precious, it really is.
I’ve seen so many people have their lives be taken away from them too early to soon and it’s witnessing that again and again the really draws home the truth that life is a massive gift and we need to treat it like the gift that it is and makes sure that you do yourself the honour and ask yourself is this YOUR truth you are living. Is this a life that sings in tune to your own personal melody and if not, what are you going to do about it - HOW are you going to UNSTICK yourself from whatever it is you feel you need to?
The first thing that pops into my head is fear, so many of us are terrified of the unknown and what's on the other side of change and transformation. Who knows, the truth is nothing is guaranteed in life, you can try and look into crystal balls but things always seem to work out with their own unexpected twist any way. However it’s so easy to get yourself paralysed in a state of fear of the unknown to the point where the position of fear becomes a normal place to exist and the experience of fear over takes the desire to make change and there you are stuck. In your own emotional entanglement, unable to create change.
Another thing is lack of self belief, so often we don't believe in our own abilities, unconscious programming comes into us from so many different directions from the moment of our conception. Babies, children, people are like sponges picking up information from our ancestors, our environment, the experiences we both have and witness other people having. They all build up until we reach the ripe old age of, well whatever it is, it can be 20 could be 50, and we just don't understand why but we just don't believe we can do it. We feel hopeless, stuck, unable to make the shifts we desire in our lives.
Something else that spring to mind is the influence of others. Sometimes people around us don't always want things to change and other people's ideas about how things should be done can be pretty distracting from our own internal voices. Especially when we have turned down our own volume. The world is a huge distraction on what we believe for ourselves and what we know to be true inside. This can range from friends, family, media, people in power, the government systems, rules, regulations, whatever. They can all be a huge distraction to us living the life we want and believe in.
These are, I’m sure, just a few things but they are the ones that jump to the forefront of my mind. They are the things which I personally can suffer with and have to work again and again at stepping over so that I may get up and shine and be my truth. You see, for me to live a life not true to the things which I believe in is something which makes me feel very sad. So what can we do to help us not fall into any of the above traps?
Spend time getting to know who you are, what are your values, what matters to you? There are no right or wrong answers here which is great news. You get to be inspired by everything that you want and you get to choose whats important to you give yourself that gift this is your life.
Take care of yourself, value the thoughts you think because they matter, they are forming your life. Spend time telling yourself positive things not negative ones. If you need help with this find someone to help you. Gift yourself support with believing yourself, you don't have to do this on your own, we are all growing perfectly in an imperfect way together.
Express yourself, don't forget to take time using your image to express who you are in the world. It's pretty amazing the things we can heal just by wearing clothes we love that feel true to our personalities and our styles. Ultimately our lives are a fancy dress party, were all here getting up getting dressed going out and creating ourselves within the world. Why not enjoy it, have some fun and see how much better you feel for it.
Just remember whatever you're going through, you're not alone, we are all in this together, one big collective universe. We share the same joy, we share the same pain, we share the same love - this is how healing happens, don't go through it alone. Go forth, take risks get up and twinkle like the true beauty you are born to be, let nothing hold you back, you are safe.