Sometimes in life really big things happen which simply knock you off your feet. There isn’t much you can do about it but go through whatever is happening and do everything you can to stay strong. It’s hard because during these times we need to let ourselves let stuff go and not give ourselves a hard time, simply trust that everything is going to be right there for you as soon as your ready to get back. You see, this is happening to me right now as I’m going through a divorce at the moment. I’ve just become a single mum and I’m finding it so hard to keep going with things.....so I’m asking you to stay with me.
You see, over this last year with my blogging and posts, I’ve noticed that many of you lovely people are enjoying following me. The feed back is that the content is valid and it’s helping. You really can’t know what a two way thing this has been. This blog has been a huge transformation tool for me. I’ve been in the process of splitting up from a 12 year relationship and marriage pretty much since I started it. It seems that all my talking about following your truth and not being scared forced my life to be realigned so that I may truly practice what I preach. It’s given me the strength to actually do this, which is why I haven’t quite managed to do all the things I was hoping to last year. However, in the last few months it got hard. The separation became real and I’m going to be honest, I’ve been crumbling. The struggle to keep on top of the extra practical things coupled with the immense grief and bereft feelings I’ve been experiencing have made me feel like hiding. This, from what I have heard, is normal.
When, as a community, we see our friends and family loved ones go through such sad and difficult times, often we don’t really know what to do. An energy of worry can set in, a hope that they will be OK coupled with a sense of fear for them. I feel that the strongest way that we, as the loving humans we are, can help our loved ones is to hold them in your thoughts with trust love and light. You see it’s like this - we are all connected and the way we see people and think about people effects them as well as ourselves. Often our ability to be able to see someone else's possibility is dampened by our own experiences or things we’ve seen others go through and we can worry for them.
However when we choose to hold someone in all their magic and beauty at a time when they can’t easily find it, it’s a beautiful and transformational experience. You see, ultimately all this trauma we seem to experience on this path is data, it’s not our truths, our truths are far more incredible. Yet the hard times are it seems necessary for us to grow and move closer to our lightness so they say!
So one of my favourite things to do when people are down is to hold them whilst being with their darkness, simply seeing them with love and trust that they will rise through this more magical and more beautiful than before as they will have shed from their souls another layer of unnecessary human conditioning.
So my lovely friends, if you feel inclined, I’m asking you to do this for me now. Please will you stay with me, please can you trust I’m going to find my feet, trust I’m going to bounce out of this and boom with my life and work please if you feel inclined to think about me can you hold me in love and light because we’re all in this together. Our thoughts are beyond powerful as is the magic of collective healing. Communities have the power to hold and lift our fellow members up and beyond simply by thinking about them kindly.
My friends who are local, please don’t let me slip away and hide, keep inviting me, visiting me, pulling me out into the world, don’t give up on me, I don’t need space, that’s just my fear, I need connection, We all need connection, I’m sure I’m not alone. If your going through similar things yourself don’t be afraid to reach out asked to be seen in your truth and your magic it really helps!
Love you all x