Ever get the feeling when you're falling into the web searching for something, you're not quite sure what, perhaps a missing part of yourself. The part you just can't pin your finger or seem to find. It rolls like this, you start looking for something which popped into your head, an idea, something important, and before you know it hours have passed and you're looking/ reading something totally random.
With this weeks onset of torrential rain in the U.K its got me thinking about one of my favourite wardrobe staples; the trench coat. It also made me think that since April showers seem to have changed into August showers it may be an August wardrobe staple. However, where ever you live in the world a really great trench coat is always a joy and a super practical piece to own. So here are my thoughts on this great Style Icon.......
This week I’m on a meditation retreat and I've been thinking about what it truly means to have a soul connection with your style. It’s something I already feel passionate about but I decided to take it a little deeper so I could write a piece about it. Our journey with the things we love is ever evolving, I’m seeking daily to learn more so I can be the best at my work, to say we have arrived ever would be simple an act of cutting of our noses to spite our face as our whole lives are a journey of self evolution. So this is what I have found in my exploration.
I’m blessed with the gift of a huge imagination and a belief in the seeming to be impossible. It’s a double edged sword as in my heart I believe in so much magic and a life of ease doing things I love working in a way I believe in yet it also makes it hard to do anything else. The truth is always calling me and whilst this is an exciting path, well it isn't always an easy one it can be hard to juggle with real life. So my thoughts this morning are how do we live our truths when our lives are telling us its just not possible.
How can spirituality and materialism be linked?
The word spiritual often creates a vision of an enlightened person or perhaps a hippy sitting detached perhaps on a mountain somewhere beautiful only concentration on their breath and their oneness, separate from the rest of the world. To be truly spiritual a master of this world we need to let go of our attachment to things belongings, desire and simply learn to be. Only through doing yoga eating simple food surrounding ourselves with crystals peace and nature and staying here can this fully be achieved........
My kids the other day literally begged me for cold baked beans on rice cakes. Every part of me winced and said no, you cant have that it’s so wrong. I need to warm the beans and you have to have toast I said over and over. They had other ideas, eventually I thought about and said ok gave it to them. In fact they got me thinking about the things we all do because they have to be done that way and that way only.
You know the things about yourself that don't feel good. We all have them those dark corners, when we make a mistake or mess up a situation feelings of shame, self loathing come up. Why did I do that, should have thought first, how did I end up here and so on. This human path can be painful at times, we don't always get it right or at least it feels like that. Choices for ourselves aren’t always made from pragmatic sensible places and even when they are there are so many other forces influencing our path, many of which we aren’t even aware of.
Listen up buttercup, are you treasuring yourself enough? Do you feel like a perky shiny buttercup or a wall flower? You know Christian Dior was known to have said flowers were the next most beautiful things god gave us after women. I have to agree I love them!
Stuff, the stuff that dreams are made of….striving to collect, create, own stuff. More stuff upon stuff until you don't even know what stuff you have. Stuff stuffed in corners, shelves, draws, boxes, cupboards basically everywhere, humming with the energy of stuff. Making your home nosey even when its quiet, keeping you busy tidying sorting managing it even when your not working and have nothing to do. Add 3 children to the mix of stuff and you have stuff everywhere, literally drowning in STUFF.
We all have different ideas about what luxury is and how free we feel to access this within in our lives. Often things can feel out of bounds to us for reasons little known to ourselves except for they don't feel right, voices like I can’t go there or do that, wear that, or experience this echo in our heads. Making us feel this Its just not what I do.When you think about it the world has so much variety with in it unbelievable amounts of beauty and luxury to experience and enjoy so why is it we limit our choice to; where we end up in life or what feels safe, what we know or have already experienced before and so on.
I’m a beauty addict, beauty is every where in nature, art, poetry, our friends our families and most of all ourselves.
One of the burning messages I have inside me is to call upon you to step up to the true beauty you are. I mean the kind of beauty that twinkles from the inside out. Because we all have it, without a doubt beauty comes from within. When we take the time to untangle our mindsets our cages of rules our judgements of ourselves yes and others and the world around us. We set ourselves free, free from the constraints of the unconscious rules we have learnt along the way about life and what's OK and what's not.
As mothers, fathers, carers of others some times it feels like a never ending pile of jobs needing to be done before we can get to ourselves, everything more important than us.
From washing to paying bills meal planning, wardrobe planning sock sorting, cleaning out cupboards you name it there are a million things than need doing before we can sit down and check in with how were doing. Often collapsing in bed exhausted still without giving ourselves a moment.
I've been thinking about the comfy places we create recently, like those jeans you’ve lived in for years, they feel easy they may be a bit baggy now, maybe not the most amazing fit but they make you feel safe. Why is that? What is it about an old pair of jeans, some scuffed up trainers or the wonderful hole filled cashmere jumper that makes you feel safe, how can they have so much power? Why does dressing down feel so much safer?
We live in an Insta/Facebook image crazy world right now, think back to my teens and remember how different it was. There is so much talk and hype about the negative effects of social media and the need to express a sunny image out into the world whilst inside perhaps feeling disconnected and sad.
Is this image crazed world causing us all separation or are we actually hyper connecting?
Who knows, probably both, but here are my thoughts:
We no longer live in the days where men just do male things and women just do the female things.Genders are blurred responsibilities are shared, women carry the burdens that men once carried alone, being the bread winners putting food on the tables whilst creating homes and bringing up children. Men are trying to forge careers for them selves whilst sharing school runs putting away washing and general distraction from nosey free spirited children. We live in an age where we are doing our best to be emotionally conscious to listen to our children's emotional needs, which creates more noise and mess and yes stress. Combined with all the pressures of creating a life in a crazy world that we inhabit right now.
What if right now is your perfect moment in time, no matter how fat/thin/ritch/poor/happy/sad or whatever else your feeling. Looking back on life its so easy to think wow, when I was 20 my body was amazing life was so free, I had so much opportunities around me. HOWEVER I didnt appreciate it, I didn't realise it if only I had. Whist siting here right here not appreciating how amazing we are right in this moment longing to be slightly slimmer or life to be different. Before we allow ourselves to take action in creating a wardrobe we love right now......